Having to Choose

...friends or family. It shouldn't be a choice someone has to make. No matter how bad a person is perceived to be by family they should not have the last word on your friendship.  This has been on my mind these last few days along with some other posts.  I am planning a party and due to an issue that arose from a friend and my family I am not able to invite my friend.  I was not able to invite this person last year either. Those who know the situation have their views on it, and please if you read this please keep them to yourself, I am not writing this to piss people off, I am writting this to tell how I feel about having to choose.

This friend and I became friends in a semi odd way. She knew me from the time i was 5 or 8 on. She worked for my dad. She was an adult and chose to be nice and friendly to a kid. A kid who trusted this person with thoughts and a friendship developed over the years. She is also the one taught me to drive, btw. Not my mom or dad, but her.

So this all came about shortly after a dispute that I don't know the whole details of, don't want to go into now since they aren't to important at this point. Anyhow a dispute happened and my friend was no longer at my dad's company. This was almost two years ago I think. So then I was conversing with said friend publicly on FB and got into trouble because of someone reporting me. (That's a whole different topic for a different day...)  Anyhow this started a big family flair up, everyone against me being friends with this person. I was even "threatened" with having to choose between a friend or family.  That just got me angrier, what right do my family have to say who I am friends with?  I don't choose who they are friends with, no matter how bad they are for them.  Maybe I am looking at the situation with blinders or something, but I don't see how this friend is such a horrible person that my family makes her out to be.  Yes, granted what I know of the "situation" neither side was to nice to each other, but a friend is a friend no matter what in my book. Unless they do something so horrible so unforgivable. I don't have many friends and I value the few that I do have.

Ugh, ok I am done rambling. This post came after a day of making invites for our big summer party and remembering that I can't invite this person because it will cause family crazies, and it made me sad.